pain gives you xp. xp is difficulty and hurt. you seem to grow so rapidly and reliably from it. it just softens you. every time, you think a little more, man, this world is heavy. this life is heavy. if you tap into that, empathize a bit, you notice everyone is going through that same process. for me that really opens me up to trying to be the best thing i can be to as many people as possible while i'm here.